I recently went to see the movie “War Room” and was so inspired after doing so. For many of us, this movie itself doesn’t shed light on a newfound discovery but rather serves as a reminder of just how powerful prayer truly is. We all know there is power in prayer but for whatever we reason we allow ourselves to become distracted by things, people and circumstances. Yet if in the midst of our routine if we can find that time and place to be alone with God we will find our strength and gain wisdom for our situations.
Wives, do you remember when you first began dating your husband? You took great pride in preparing yourself for your date…made sure your clothes, make up and hair was perfect for your special one on one time. The date always seemed to end perfectly if there was a special place that only the two of you knew about and you carved time in your date to frequent this location to share a moment that turned to a fond memory.
Can you imagine how God feels when we take time to quiet our spirits, reject distractions and prepare ourselves for our alone time with Him? There’s so much joy, peace, love and security in His presence… that secret place that only the two of you share. It’s a sacred time that you can express your gratitude to God and talk with Him and hear his heartbeat. It has nothing to do with location but rather a commitment that says no matter what is going on in my life today, I will create a space and place to be alone with God! The beauty of the secret place is that it is mobile! Whether in my car, at my office, on a plane…wherever I am I can whisper His name and call on Him and instantly He is there ready for “our time”.
As a new believer or perhaps someone who has never developed a prayer life it can seem a little daunting and perhaps unrealistic to “talk to God” but the truth of the matter is, He’s real and He longs to have a relationship with you. A relationship requires communication and God so desires to hear your voice!
I’m not a religious person. Having been brought up in church I know how to “do church” but my relationship with God began when I stepped away from what I was “taught” and began living what I believed. I fell in love with the person of Jesus Christ and He became real to me when I got real with Him. That happened when I began talking to Him from my heart and not with fancy, religious rhetoric. That secret place of being in His presence allows me to bare my scars, share my deepest thoughts and dreams. That secret place with Him allows me to be honest and vulnerable because I’m in the safest place I could ever be.
Ladies, can I encourage her to cultivate your quiet time with God? Start off with giving Him just 5 minutes of your day. Begin to increase this as you become comfortable with your prayer life. As you nurture a relationship with God, learn to be still and listen for His reply. We live in a dispensation of time where we need to know God’s voice like never before! We must learn to strengthen ourselves daily, inquire of the Lord His plans for our life and allow Him to pour His love into us as we go about our day.
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The questions is to you ladies, are you ready to step it up to be the wife God has called you to be? Even if you are not a wife and are single, this message is for you. I have been thinking of my calling as a wife as I am approaching my 13-year Anniversary and realizing I have a lot to improve on in my role as a wife. I think as women we can get set in our mundane tasks of everyday living that we just settle at being an “okay” or “good” wife. But are we comfortable with just “okay” or is God calling us higher?
Titus 2:4-5 explains our role is to love our family and be a role model for younger woman. The verse states, “ And so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their husbands that the word of God many not be reviled.” Titus 2:4-5
This verse says a lot and how as wives we need to step it up and work harder than ever on loving our children and husband. We carry so much power in the home as women that we need to make sure our presence is Godly and not absorbed with ourselves. Our husbands lead the home but we truly set the tone of the home! Have you heard the saying, “If Momma ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy!” That saying is sooo true and we do have the power to set a tone of love, patience and kindness that will permeate the home and show your kids respect and love towards each other and your husband. This ladies, is where we are called to action and be the wives God calls us to be. Step up and choose to submit or align yourself with your husband and impact God’s Kingdom with your marriage.
Are you ready to step up? Don’t be on the sidelines watching your family slip on by and not being the example God has called you to be! Step up today and don’t miss out on the God given power He has given you and the precious role called “Wife”!
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Let’s get right down to it. Whenever the topic of forgiveness is brought up, the offending party wants nothing more than to associate that with forgetting, and the offended party wants to emphasize that the two are not made equal. This is such a touchy issue I don’t know if it is wise for me to take an absolute position, and here is why. For one, I once read the definition of forgiveness or “forgive” and statements like, “abolishing something from your heart” stuck with me even until this day. How can you “abolish” something in your heart and it still is present? The truth is you cannot, however just because the offense is no longer in your heart, that doesn’t mean you forget how it got there in the first place does it?
God is so great that when He forgives, He has the ability to give you a clean slate. However when we forgive, can we do the same thing? Do we even try? Personally, I believe that we can learn from our mistakes via the gift of memory. So while I do not hold people to what they did to me, it is not completely wiped from my memory. While I don’t live in that wounded place on a day-to-day basis, I am reminded, again, of how I got there and I am sure to not repeat. Remembering the pain, hurt or drama that someone caused you can be useful as a trigger to not return. Just to repeat, I don’t believe we should “throw things” in people’s faces that they’ve done to us in the past, nor should we run around telling others what they did. We remember so that we don’t have to repeat, and we remember so that we can help others overcome whenever or if ever they too are betrayed.
The last article I wrote quoted Hebrews 12:14 which encourages us to follow peace with all men, and 1 Corinthians 13 depicts “love” as something that keeps no record of wrongs. This is where we can get caught up. I am pursuing peace, but I don’t want to continue to be hurt. If I truly love someone then I should not keep an account or record of the wrong they’ve done, but I also want to make sure I don’t fall into the trap again. With issues such as these, we really have to go to the Father in prayer and ask Him to examine our hearts and let us know the areas where we fall short. I encourage you to not ask yourself if you have forgiven, but ask the Father. If there are any areas in your life where you are holding onto something that has happened to you and is potentially holding you back, He will reveal all areas that you desire to be healed in. Forgive or Forget? Let’s pray and ask God to help us with both.
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Everyone has their standards when it comes to friend picking. Even if you don’t think you have any standards, there’s some type of pattern involved. Every developing friendship has it’s certain dos and don’ts as a common respect. You cherish that relationship and don’t compromise it because that’s your friend, your homie, your pal, your home slice, BFF. You cherish your friendships mostly because that’s who you love.
Lately I’ve been thinking about God’s standards for friendship and love. I read the scriptures that show the times leading up to Jesus’ death and see how He was hanging out with His disciples, knowing they would betray Him and deny him. He hung with and befriended people who would not be there at the foot of the cross when He died. They would not come to His rescue or His side in His most important hour. They couldn’t even pray for an hour and keep a lookout for Him no matter how many times He asked. And yet, these were His friends.
Now I know that this example isn’t meant to be used as an excuse to hang with people who will do us wrong because Jesus did it. No, Jesus had an entire perfected plan going on. He knew His mission, He saw straight to the heart of these men. He didn’t just see the denier, He saw the Rock that His church would be built on. He looked at those around Him knowing full and well what their purpose was.
What I am here to do is to ask you to join me today if you will. Come along with me and meditate on the fact that Jesus loved us long before we were anything near to being His friend. Before we ever sang one song to Him in worship, or prayed for someone in need, or led our first Bible Study. When we were cursing everyone out around us, or drowning our sorrows in rivers of wine, He loved us. While we were still His enemy, He loved us. And He doesn’t just love us so He can sit on a holy hill keeping all of His vast plans a complete mystery while we stay groveling on the ground as servants wondering if the Master would have use for us somehow. His love keeps us close to Him in a place of relationship, of friendship. He decided to be the kind of friend that sticks closer than a brother or sister. The kind of friend that would go to the death to prove His love. And as we mediate on this amazing grace, we are thankful that He would love us not only with the love of a father but with a love of a friend.
“13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” John 15:13-15 (NIV)
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