As For Me And My House by Trish

“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord,” Joshua 24:15.

Not too long ago I had a conversation with one of my mentee’s about the importance of proper balance in our lives as it relates to what we pour out for others.  While we have a responsibility as Proverbs Women to be helpful and resourceful for those around us, we must never lose sight that our first ministry is to God and then to our household.  If we are constantly giving to others but not keeping our homes properly  aligned, we are out of order and it is only a matter of time before burnout will take over and the feelings of being overwhelmed, exhaustion and fatigue set in.

I remember one time when I was in ministry in Phoenix, AZ I was so exhausted and not feeling well. My mentor asked me what I had been doing and as I listed the never-ending needs of the kids I ministered to, she corrected me. She shared insight with me that still resonates in my heart. She said if the helping I did only encouraged them to be more dependent on me, then I wasn’t doing my job correctly. If the needs I was surrounded by consumed my home life at the end of the day, then I hadn’t yet learned how to minister effectively. What she was teaching me was that in all of our doing, we must point others to Christ and not create a dependency on man. All that is going to do is lead others to disappointment,  and lead us into sheer exhaustion! While we are to bear one another’s burdens, we carry them to the only One who can handle them, Jesus Christ.

As women, we are gifted with this amazing ability to multi-task and do it well, I might add. However, let’s be mindful of what we put our hands to. We haven’t been called to everything but rather specific things and in doing so we bring honor to God, our families are blessed because we know our boundaries, our homes are filled with peace, and our personal lives reflect the grace it is supposed to.

For the married women: If you are married, you have a ministry within your home to your husband first and then to your children. Your home is the oasis of peace where your husband walks in and finds refuge. Your countenance is the safe place where your children look to find stability. I’m not saying that hymns and high notes are playing sweet melodies in your house 24/7 and all is perfect in the “Jones’ home” at all times, but what I am saying is that as the woman of the house you are to support the standard of Godly living for your home and you do this by maintaining proper balance.

For the single women: I really do not understand where society thinks we have more time than married women. It is simply not so. ESPECIALLY if you are a Kingdom woman! Most nights my head hits the pillow in gratitude for the rest that is about to bless my life after a nonstop day! Now, while it’s true that our time is not divided between a spouse or children, the fact of the matter is, we are all given 24 hours and whether married or single just determines how those hours are spent.  So, even if you don’t have a husband to tend to or children to care for, you still have a home that needs to maintain order! If it is your desire to be married, then you are getting the prime opportunity to practice. I’ve heard it once said that, “Your  married life will only be as successful as your single life.” In other words, the habits you live by now as an individual will reflect what you contribute when paired with another.

Why is balance for the home so important?

Peace and Stability:  I don’t know about you but when things are out of balance in my life, I do not function well at all. Order brings a sense of peace and stability. While there are some things that happen throughout our day beyond our control, there are many things we CAN prioritize and provide preparation for.

Joy and Strength: Balance is key because it keeps us in a healthy place spirit, soul and body. When our homes and/or our lives are out of balance it tends to steal our joy from us. Ladies, we NEED our joy, that is where our strength comes from! The joy of the Lord IS our strength! If our joy is robbed, our strength is depleted. While we are called to serve and sacrifice we are not called to stretch ourselves so thin that there is nothing to give our God, our families and yes, ourselves! Out of the overflow of what we receive from God’s presence do we distribute to our families and beyond.

So, how do we find balance?

Personal time with God:  we should have a standing appointment with God daily where we love on Him and in turn get our instructions and recharge for the day. The Bible says that His mercies are new EVERY MORNING so that tells me that there are things I face today that I need fresh mercy for. I can only receive that when I spend time in God’s presence.  In His presence there is fullness of JOY and as we said earlier, His joy is where our strength lies.

Prioritize: What can you eliminate from your day that would not be a detriment to you or your family?  Ignoring your spouse is not on the list. (smile)  Be there for those people and things that matter most!

What you invest in today, you will one day receive a return! Only you can determine what those priorities are. Get your notepad out and make a list and do not feel guilt over what you simply cannot do in this season!

Practice: Practice a schedule! Find what works for you and what doesn’t. If you’re married, this should be decided upon together so that your goals are in proper alignment and each of you have an understanding of what your commitments are outside of the home. Come in agreement and put it into practice.

Be of good cheer, ladies! There is much for us to do and each of our roles is vital. When our individual homes are in order, we make HIS HOUSE all the more glorious!


God’s Chosen by Sonya


“You are my servant, I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:9-10)

This verse is dear to my heart and such a great reminder that, we are chosen! God chose each one of us to be HIS and HIS alone! I have tears in my eyes as I think of the times I felt rejected or not good enough to be a wife or mother or friend.  This sense of rejection makes it hard to live up to God’s potential because I feel weak.  But as the next verse says, “He will strengthen you and help you.” (Isaiah 41:10) This part of the verse gives me hope and courage that I am not alone that He will strengthen me and not leave.  I desperately need His strength and help each day.  Can I get a witness?

We as followers of Christ can do this life alone but through HIM we can be His chosen servants and not give up and resist rejection.  Through talking to God, I felt Him saying, “You are accepted and chosen!” I don’t have to feel that sense of rejection and listen to what the world thinks I should be.  God designed me to be the mother of these four miracles I have and to be the wife to my wonderful husband. I don’t have to prove anything but let go and let God into my circumstances and allow Him to help me through all things. I feel at times God grabs my chin and looks me in the eyes to tell me how He loves me just like I do to my own children.

We as adults need to hear how much we are loved by our heavenly father just as our children do. God chose us and nobody else to be the person He has made us to be.  I love the last part of the verse saying, “He will uphold us with His righteous hand.”  His hand will not let go of our lives. That is so comforting and gives us a peace that we can’t explain.  Are we going to believe we are the chosen ones? Start Today!

For The Lord Is Good by Kenika 100:5 “For the Lord is good…”

If you are a person that has been in church for any amount of time, you may have heard someone refer to God as being good.  Even if you’ve never stepped foot in a church you may have heard your grandma or some churchy person recite the line, “God is good all the time.”  When people are struggling with the notion of the existence of God and what He is like, the number one question tends to be, “If God is so good, why does he let _________ happen?”  The fill in the blank is usually some sort of injustice, poverty, crime or evil in the world.  Believers sometimes say that God is good all the time no matter what it looks like, feels like or seems like, He’s still good.  But in a world like ours and in the dispensation that we live in, people are having a hard time comprehending that something or someone can be inherently good.  We are constantly let down by others, and sometimes even our own actions leave us thinking we are no good either.

Instead of looking at my own frailties and focusing in on the failures of  others, I draw comfort in knowing that God is always good.  If I’m having a bad day, He’s still good.  If everything is going according to plan, He is good.  When everything I know to be true is falling to pieces, He is good. He never changes.  It’s the one place that I can run to.  It’s the idea that no matter what, He is a good God. He’s not just good in some ways, and not in others. In all ways, at all times, He is to the nature and core of Him, good.

We have to learn to see Him in this light and affirm Him as being this in our lives. Otherwise we will drive ourselves crazy trying to figure every little thing out.  Why did that happen, or why didn’t this happen?  These are questions that will take us away from a simple idea.  Whether it’s good times or bad times, high times or low times, whether we feel like it or not, God is always good. That is what is so great about Him and His character.  He’s dependable, reliable and constant.

This understanding leaves little room for doubt or question.  His truest goodness draws us to Him and binds us to His love forever.


The Sin Difference by Bombi up in church I heard a lot of good word and also good, practical life advice. One popular and applicable message I remember was on having a good attitude. Hearing, “Your attitude determines your altitude”, is not only true but a good reminder to keep things in perspective when tempted to live life with a crummy outlook. Staying positive and not giving way to negative emotions is very important if we as believers don’t want to live in constant defeat. Surrounding yourself with solid people is also an important part of this. The Word clearly states, “Bad company corrupts good character” (1 Cor. 15:33).

However, there came a time in my life where I wanted to have a good attitude so badly and only wanted to surround myself with nothing but positivity and positive people, that I lost my balance. I found myself making decisions that seemed good at the time, but later showed I was lacking wisdom, compassion, and love. I replaced walking in love with walking in avoidance. I didn’t want to even acknowledge the bad in or around me. I created a new reality that kept me from seeing things and life as they were, avoiding conflict in any form or fashion. Slowly but surely I found myself in the lonely land of indifference.

Webster defines “indifference” as:

1. the quality, state, or fact of being indifferent

2. a. archaic: lack of difference or distinction between two or more things

b: absence of compulsion to or toward one thing or another

Here are some synonyms: apathy, disregard, nonchalance, unconcern, lukewarmness, coldness, detachment, hard-heartedness, and insensitivity.

Lukewarmness? Hard-heartedness? Yikes, that sounds so harsh! Yet I found myself nearing this listless place towards life and God’s people. Initially all I wanted was to keep the bad out so that my attitude would not be affected negatively. But soon I found myself not acknowledging others’ feelings because I didn’t want to receive an opinion on anything that might rock the boat in any direction and cause any drama. I’ve heard it said, “Hate isn’t the opposite of love, indifference is”.  I’m so thankful that I’ve had others around me that weren’t indifferent when my life came to a negative halt. I’m thankful that they loved me through the darkness. Can you imagine if everyone treated me the way I was treating them during my hard times?  What about Jesus? Can you imagine if He walked this earth only looking for the “sun shiny” happy people? Where would the blind man be? What about Mary Magdalene? Or the thief that hung next to Him on the cross? Lastly, let’s not forget us. He came with a mission to seek and save the lost. He came looking for the outcasts, dark, and negative people. He came looking for you and me. He didn’t grow cold and indifferent towards the people He came to save (Matt 9:36).

Indifference leads to ineffectiveness. If you’ve found yourself in the land of indifference with those around you, I encourage you to pray and ask God to remind you of your purpose with people. Perhaps, as a reminder, you can read this aloud just like Jesus did:

“The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.” Luke 4:18-19 (NIV)

We aren’t here to be on an island by ourselves until Jesus comes. We are meant to be agents of change. We came to light the darkness with the love of Christ. Keep shining.