Movies speak to me in a truly revelatory way. Try not to judge me too much until you understand what I mean. I recently saw a movie, which was somewhat of a commentary on teenage life with all the problems and drama that come with it. There was a great line that is still challenging me today in a scene where this young teenager had seen so many people in his life allow the wrong influences to sway them, and made choices to be in terrible situations. Searching for a better way he asks his father, “Why can’t we save people?”, to which his father replies, “Because we (all) accept the love we think we deserve.” That line rocked me to my core! How true is this in your life? There is an old saying that you teach people how to treat you, and it is so true. We can pretend that we had nothing to do with it and take the victim approach of saying, “How did I get here?” or “Why did this happen to me?” or if you’re bold, “God, why did you allow this to happen to me?”, but the truth of the matter is we accepted it even in the smallest way. Whether it’s a bad relationship where you saw all of the red flags, but you ignored them. Or if it was the friendship with a person who always took without giving, and you let them use you. How about a dead end job that was taking you nowhere fast, but you couldn’t see anything else for yourself so you stayed. Whatever it may be we didn’t have the understanding that we deserved more or better.
After I heard that line, I began to look over different relationships, friendships, associates, and acquaintances to evaluate how they reflected what I think I deserve. For some of those persons I shuddered at the idea that I felt I deserved so little. That I would allow myself to give so much, but be completely comfortable receiving so little in return. Thank God that I can look at them in retrospect and majority of my relationships in present tense, do not fall under that category. However, it could have been a completely different story if I had decided to stay in a place of who or what I thought I deserved.
This is not to say that we should have an overinflated idea of who we are or what we deserve, but it is to say that we need to know the value we possess. Whether as a woman, a man, a believer, or a person in general, we need to know that we are valuable. We are so precious in the sight of our heavenly Father, and others need to appreciate that value as well. Therefore, as we are at the top of another year, it is a great opportunity to make a determination to live the life that we deserve. Let 2013 be the year that you obtain the career, the relationship, the home, the friendship, the new vehicle, and/or your dreams that you truly deserve. Don’t waste time with anyone or anything that does not sincerely represent God’s best for your life. This time around, choose to leave the deception and your previous perception behind. This time, live the life and accept the love you really deserve.