With Mother’s Day approaching, I wanted to share my heart as a mom and what I have learned from being a mother. This role is one of the hardest things I will ever do in my life but the most rewarding. When I say hard, as a mother you have to be intentional and can’t sit on the sidelines when you raise your children. As a mother, God wired us to be the nurturer and feel compassion for our children. God has given us qualities that we are to bestow on our children and Proverbs 31 explains it.
As you learn and understand Proverbs 31, here are some key things: “Who find a …woman (with a mother heart)? For her price is far above rubies… She … works willingly with her hands… With the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard… She reaches out her hand to the poor… Strength and honor are her clothing… She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looks well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” (Prov. 31:10, 13, 16, 20, 25-27) These verses show a mother’s heart and how unselfish and hard working she is for her family. Motherhood is not for the selfish and lazy! You give of your time and talents each and every day and don’t ask anything in return.
I remember the days when my kids where little and I was so exhausted. I wondered if my children really appreciated all that I did for them. Now that my four kids are older, they write me notes and tell me all the time how much they love me and appreciate all I do for them. The notes that stand out are the ones saying I want to be like you and thank you for teaching me about Jesus. That is what brings joy to my heart to see them love Jesus more and more and become more like Him. What rewards your heart as mom? Are we mothering to bring joy to our heavenly Father?
Our children are a gift from God and we have a big assignment as a mother to share the gospel and love of Jesus. Our mother’s hearts should be on mission to share Christ through our love and actions. It isn’t to be done perfectly, thank goodness, as we serve a perfect God and believe me I mess up every day and there is no perfect mom. But we have God to guide our children and lead them in His perfect way and will for their lives. Having a heart to teach your children the bible and how to pray is rewarding. It takes a lot of work to invest in your children but don’t give up on sharing the truth even if your kids reject it as you are planting the seeds that one day will harvest.
As moms you are on a mission field to guide and raise your children according to God’s word and it can seem overwhelming, but know that you don’t have to do it alone, as God will lead you! Learning to have a mother’s heart takes unselfishness, kindness, love, and boldness to not fit in like the world wants to mold us, but to be transformed into a mother that God has designed each of you to be. Moms you have a light that shines bright and are one of your children’s biggest role models. Be the influence and show the heart of our heavenly Father that gives grace and overflows with love. Have the heart of a mother that cultivates Godly character in your kids and allows them to dream big and fulfill the plans God has for them. Don’t underestimate your job as a mother because in the end, your children see you as their “Hero and #1 Fan.” Be blessed this Mother’s Day and hear the words ending in Proverbs 31: 28, “Her children rise up and call her blessed.” Happy Mother’s Day!
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A little over three months ago I got engaged to my husband to be. It was so exciting for my family, my friends, and me as I was seemingly thrust into a season that I had only dreamed of. We decided on a short engagement, which means an upcoming wedding in the month of May! There I was just minding my business in life and experiencing the highs and lows of a standard boyfriend girlfriend relationship, when all of a sudden I became a “bride to be.” Nothing super spiritual to offer up here, but the gravity of it all sunk in pretty quickly as different elements became so vital. The ring on my hand secured itself as becoming the most important piece of jewelry I had ever owned. Not just the most important ring, but the most important, valuable and sentimental of every piece in my possession. As I was picking out my dress I thought, “Whoa, this is the most important dress purchase I’ve ever made.” The same emotions were present while planning the honeymoon trip, every accessory that will be worn on the day and so on.
My background is in event management. I’ve organized and led countless events, conferences and concerts all over the world, literally, during the course of my life. I’ve also helped to coordinate and assist at weddings of close friends but again, no event will come to be as important to me as our own wedding day. The most important venue, caterer, dessert, tablecloths, and centerpieces you name it. All of that is taken care of and my mind and my prayers have gone to the vows and commitment I will make to who is now the most important man in my life, outside of Jesus of course. I’m preparing my heart and my mind to speak the most crucial words and promises I’ve ever made. Promises that I will profess and fully intend to never break. Outside of the prayer of salvation, there hasn’t been a declaration from my lips that has carried so much weight. To love, cherish, obey, in sickness and in health until death separate us. That is pretty heavy stuff!
As the checklist dwindles I am more ready now than ever to say, “I do.” At the beginning the exterior elements got me thinking of their importance, but as the day draws near I’ve shifted to the importance of the interior elements as well. I’m not only ready because I’m a decent planner with event details, but I’m also ready because God has lovingly been preparing me for this extremely important day for a long time. We are in the home stretch to becoming man and wife; please pray for us during this significant time!
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The upcoming Valentine’s Day has me thinking about how I can better love my spouse. God put it on my heart to be more present. We have a busy life with four kids and carving out time to go on dates can be hard. However, being present is key in the way we interact with our spouses. I look at all aspects of our relationship and I’m more aware that connecting with my husband will allow him to feel more loved by me. It is in the little things like when he calls me. Am I focused on the conversation or am I distracted? My husband knows when I am not fully listening to him on and off the phone. In order to affirm that I am listening on the phone, I ask questions or repeat what he just said to make sure I understand. Eye contact is the key in person and truly giving him your attention by turning off the television and phone, or going in another room where your kids can’t distract you. Giving of your time and listening well allows you to be present in the moment with your love/valentine. Our spouses deserve to be loved well and if we can’t give them our time and focus, then we are missing out on a deeper relationship that we can have with them! My husband does a great job at loving me well. For Valentine’s Day he makes a homemade dinner and we stay at home and just be together. He shows me he is present by making himself available and carving that time out. It is not complex, but a simple gesture to just spend time with your sweetie and it doesn’t have to cost to be present with your love. I challenge you this Valentine’s Day to take a break from the busyness and spend time with the ones you love. You will never regret being present in their lives!
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“In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”
I love this verse because it’s promotes generosity. It displays Christ’s purest desire to give rather than to receive. It highlights the needs of the weak and the poor yes, but you can also take on this attitude in many aspects of life. Other versions say, “It’s better to give than to receive.” To the truly selfish person that may sound perplexing. Surely receiving is more enjoyable! I’ve managed to learn over the years, however, the joy that is attached to giving. One of my love languages is Gifts. Which means I express love through giving gifts, and I also interpret or receive love through gifts. When I was younger I think I much preferred getting a gift. Now that I’m older and more experienced, the joy for giving gifts has far surpassed the happiness of receiving one. The look on a person’s face when they behold what I have spent time and money on to give to them is truly a delight to me.
“It is more blessed to give – It is a higher privilege; it tends more to the happiness of the individual and of the world. The giver is more blessed or happy than the receiver.” (Barnes’ Notes on the Bible)
It is a higher privilege indeed to be in the position to give. Think about that for a moment. Think of how impacted you were when someone reached out to meet your need. What a blessing to be in the seat of the giver at a later turn in life. This verse isn’t talking about physical gifts alone, but also about meeting the needs of the disenfranchised. Maybe you were the person in need for a long time and now you are stabilized. The best way to honor those who helped you is to help others. People need food, shelter, community, a friend, a prayer partner, and the list goes on and on. Sometimes in the “name it and claim it” circles of ministry believers are consumed with trying to get their needs, wants and desires met, and they neglect the needs of the weak. I’m all for a strong prayer life, and humbly asking God to grant you what you need, all I’m saying is that the bigger blessing is in giving. Don’t believe me? Well, Jesus said so.
Let’s hit the pause button on some of our typical requests and instead maybe ask the Lord to show us ways that we can grant requests. Let’s ask God to point us in the direction of opportunities where we can be the better for giving to those in need. It’s the higher privilege that will leave you more blessed and happy than those you choose to look out for.
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