So, it’s me again with another 40-something life review. Seems like there are many my age that have their 2nd degree by now, or are grandparents. Some have even started early retirement. Some have taken on a new hobby, tried their hand at publishing their writings, or finally went skydiving. And then there’s me.
I think for a long while I would feel bits of intimidation around other people my age. I didn’t check off the boxes in life like they did, I always seemed to do my own thing. Sometimes I would feel like conversations with my peers were kind of lopsided. This feeling wasn’t too overwhelming, but it was enough to still feel a way. Sometimes polarizing, other times it really wasn’t that big of a deal, but it was big enough for me to take notice.
There is a song that says, “Time makes you bolder,” and I agree. In my middle age I’ve come to a place that I’m more than okay with me. It’s freeing to know I don’t have to be anyone but me. While perhaps many words could be used to describe me, one word I hope that comes to mind is “friend.” Anyone can be a friend, right? For me being a friend is more than a thing, it’s an honorable calling. The power of friendship is so strong, one might even feel its bonds closer than family.
Now that I’ve lived a little bit, I feel it’s safe to say that this isn’t something that comes from a seeking, needy, or even a broken place. It’s not that at all. I believe it’s God-given. Safe to say, if I were asked to choose between singing a song or being a friend, I’d say “FRIEND” every time. I truly believe that’s something God put on the inside of me.
Maybe that doesn’t sound too spiritual or very ambitious to you. Before you brush it off I’ll remind you of something that you may forget from time to time and that is this, Jesus is a friend. Yes, the One you call your Savior and Lord is the ultimate friend. I believe that if friendship weren’t important, He wouldn’t have been one, or even mentioned friendship at all in His word.
I want to encourage you, if you feel like you don’t check off many or really any of the so-called boxes of where you could or should be in life, just know you don’t belong in that box. You probably belong outside of it. There are passions that God has place inside of your heart that might not be like anyone you know, or even anything you’ve really seen, but they are just as important as anyone else’s. Before you brush off, ignore, judge, or even dislike the things that gnaw at your heart, take a moment and ask God to shine His light on it and show you what to do with the stuff He placed in your heart. You might find yourself pleasantly surprised and maybe even utterly fulfilled.
“But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Proverbs 18:24 (NIV)