It’s 2018 and what are we as women going to do differently this year to grow, to challenge and to “become”? By now I’m sure there have been many to-do lists, goals, plans and vison boards created to help us stay on task with what we desire to see fulfilled in this year. Be mindful that as soon as you take that first step towards self-improvement and growth, there will be an enemy waiting to launch missiles your way to get you off course and discourage your faith. One of the greatest tactics used against humanity are lies planted in our thought lives. The more we allow these lies to marinate in our brain the more power we give it to grow. Like a weed, it grows, rapidly choking out what was meant to give life and beauty such as those dreams and goals.
For us as women, most of us are moved by words. We take to heart what is said and what is not said. Some may refer to it as being, “too sensitive,” when in fact we have a God-given gift of feeling things very deeply. Our heart is attached to how words make us feel. It’s part of our make up as women. So when either a person or the enemy speaks lies we must dispel these lies and replace them with the truth of God’s Word. As I thought about penning this article I began to list some of the top lies used against women and I want to encourage you to disarm the enemy by dispelling such lies.
Lie: 1 You aren’t valuable//Truth: Your worth is far above rubies
Proverbs 31:10King James Version (KJV)
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Have you ever noticed that exquisite items aren’t visible? They are kept behind a locked counter out of sight and definitely out of reach. That is because the owner knows what has been invested to obtain such an item of worth and is not willing to risk it being mishandled or taken without its value being compensated for. Before I was married I would meet guys I was interested in or vice versa and it just never worked out. I felt like I was doing something wrong or being punished for something. I felt that way until God revealed to me I wasn’t being punished I was being protected. YOU ARE VALUABLE and you cannot rely on someone else to identify or validate this for you. You are not being “shelved” or set aside because you aren’t valuable. If you haven’t been “revealed” for a particular position or person, perhaps God is reserving you for those that can handle correctly the gift you are and value you bring.
Lie: You aren’t pretty//Truth: You are made in the image and likeness of God
Genesis 1:27New International Version (NIV)
27 So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
What defines beauty? Let me remind you it is not in the hips, lips, booty and breasts. Those are temporal and going to change in time. Society has created a picture that beauty is all of these things and more. The beauty you carry should come from the inside of you and when you know your worth and where your beauty comes from it will show up in how you care for yourself and represent the God you serve. Notice I did say it would show up in how you care for yourself. Meaning beauty isn’t only having a good heart, but it also means caring for and presenting yourself like the queen you are. The essence of beauty is found in the image of who you mirror or represent.
To the young lady who is constantly comparing your waist size to someone else. Stop. You are enough. Take care of who you are and walk in your beauty confidently whether size 2 or 22.
To the lady who has never been told, “You’re beautiful,” I’m telling you now that you are. To the woman whose husband has eyes that have wandered elsewhere, don’t doubt yourself and mistake beauty for airbrushed images and fake body parts.
Lie: You’ve made too many mistakes//Truth: You can do all things through Christ
Philippians 4:13New International Version (NIV)
13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
I love reading about people who have failed in life and yet have had this amazing comeback moment that launched them into destiny and purpose. Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates and Colonel Sanders to name a few. Then in the Bible we have those who were unlikely candidates for success. Moses with a speech impediment, chosen to lead God’s people, David, a ruddy kid on the back side of the mountain chosen as King, Mary, an adolescent girl chosen to give birth to the Messiah. So, who are you to tell God and others what you’re not capable of doing?
You are created to win, to excel and overcome EVERY obstacle. No weapon formed against shall be successful. You are a daughter of God, which means you are royalty. Don’t allow a lie to cause you to question your role or forfeit your dream!