Not Measuring Up by Sonya



I am in this season of life that I feel like I am not measuring up to what a great mom or a great wife should be. I fail everyday either saying or doing the wrong things. I know we are our worst critics of ourselves, and we put a lot of pressure on ourselves. Each day I pray that I will not make the same mistakes and be the best that God wants me to be. But then that next day comes, and I fall flat on my face, and wonder how am I going to change or will I ever measure up to so and so and be that super mom or wife? The more I struggle with it and battle in my mind, the more the enemy will feed lies to me saying I am not a good enough mom and wife. I am left feeling empty and lonely thinking questions like, “Will my kids turn out good?” or , “Did I mess up too bad?” or, “What will others think?”

The question I need to ask is, “Am I measuring up to the world’s expectations or God’s expectations?” As I think about this question I recall Eve’s story in Genesis and how God had given her everything and all that a woman desires such as beauty, security, purpose and a confidence in who she was until the serpent came along and whispered lies from Satan to doubt God and herself. Then Eve took the forbidden fruit thinking it would make her like God and here it left her unfulfilled. This story is so true of our own lives where we try to prove who we are, but looking to the wrong sources and not seeking God through it. If we keep going down that path then we will never feel fulfilled and will always strive for something that will leave us empty inside.

That emptiness inside made me cry out to God and realize that it will never be enough if I put unrealistic expectations on myself or compare to others. Even Paul talks about it in 2 Corinthians 10:12 and warns us, “measure themselves by themselves, and compare themselves with themselves, are not wise.” Amen. This is not wise and I shouldn’t keep carrying a measuring stick around anymore. Through this I am learning to find my confidence in Christ and let Him define who I am. God accepts me and loves me where I am at and I don’t have to prove a thing because I am secure in Him, a child of the Most High. Ephesians 1:3-8, “ I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child.” 2 Corinthians 3:4, “ We are confident of all this because of our great trust in God through Christ.”  Understand your confidence comes from Christ and nowhere else, “I am confident God will complete the good work He started in me,” Philippians 1:6.  Let His good work flow through us and focus on who we are in Christ then we can thank God for His provision and purpose for our lives. Are we ready to put that measuring stick away and not try to measure up or compare anymore? Ladies I think it is time to start following God’s ruler today!


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