No “Buts” About It by Kenika



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As women we wear many hats and fulfill a variety of roles to all the people in our lives. It’s not to say that men aren’t as expanded or stretched as we are, but it would seem that our ability to multi-task and take on several projects at once is simply unmatched. We can be in the middle of a conversation with one person, engaged in it mind you, and simultaneously be planning what we are going to do later that week, day, or evening. The worst/best part of all is that we won’t even skip a beat!
I can only speak for myself when I say that I take on too much. This may sound strange, but I’m grateful for a body that occasionally shuts down, and a mind that almost reaches capacity. The reason I’m grateful is because these are telltale signs that I need to slow down. When this happens, I take a day or so to myself in order to pray, think, reflect, or simply do absolutely nothing in order to physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally prepare for my next move. This usually involves cutting something out, or letting something go. Now as overwhelmed as I can claim to be, I still struggle when it’s time to let something go. I know that sounds crazy, or maybe it doesn’t to most women who can relate.
The reason I do this is not to be seen as incompetent or inconsistent but rather, the opposite. I don’t want to become that person that is good at something “but”. What I mean by that is people can have so many accolades for you, your gifts, your talents, your abilities, your reputation, but at the end of the sentence they have to add a “but”. The reason this “but” is added is due to the fact that you’re always late, you don’t come through, you have a bad attitude, you never return calls, and/or your work is suffering because you can’t give your all to it. I don’t want anyone to say that I’m great “but” and then fill in the blank with a shortcoming. Especially not if the reason is because I have stretched myself entirely too thin, saying “yes” to everyone that asks for something, and not taking time for myself in order to regroup in between projects.

I think excellence in every area is something that we should all strive for. Not perfection, but excellence, there is a huge difference. Perfection means you never make mistakes, excellence means you give your very best at all times, and if/when you make a mistake you are so on top of things, that it’s already corrected by the time others find out about it. Okay, I confess, that’s the “Kenika” version of perfection and excellence, but come on, it’s still pretty good right? The point is, don’t cause others to make excuses for you just because you failed to manage your time correctly. Let others boast about how God has gifted you to do xyz, and refer you to others with zero disclaimers at the end because you balance your time, and obligations with grace and excellence.


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