Preparing for Love…What I’ve learned in My Season of Waiting
Recently I was asked to be a part of a panel discussion on the topic, “Preparing for Love.” As I thought about what to share, I jotted down some of the key lessons God has taught me in this season of waiting.
For those who don’t know me, I made a decision at the age of fifteen to not date anyone other than my husband and to trust God for His best for my life. Within the last year, at the age of 35, my heart was captured and I officially became a girl in a relationship, a woman in love. The journey leading to this step of courtship included a 2-year pursuit of my heart. While this journey is penned from my perspective, it’s still only 50% complete as this reMARCable (incorrect spelling totally intentional…smile) journey includes the heart of an amazing man who too has a story of his own that led him to me. I also want to make it known that I’m not against dating at all! This was just my story and the decision to not date was what I felt was God’s plan for my life.
I’m continuing to learn and to grow as I walk out this season of intentional courtship. While I’m not married and not even engaged, I can honestly say that there is no one I would rather share this season with and although love is always a risk, this particular man was and still is more than worth it.
- God Does not Tease
God does not dangle a promise or a desire in front of us to see how high we’ll jump. The desires of our heart are to be covered in prayer and believed for in faith. If it has not happed yet, DO NOT GIVE UP. Trust God that His timing is perfect!
- God Can be Trusted
God created you so He knows you better than you what is best for your life. Trust that your heart is His priority and DO NOT compare your journey to someone else’s. While there are principles to be applied found in God’s Word for preparation, there is no “formula” to making love appear. “Trust in the Lord with all of heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5-6
- Become a Wife as a Single
The Bible tells us, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing.” This tells me there are attributes I must obtain now before saying, “I do.” This does not mean fulfilling “wifely” duties in its entirety, but conditioning my thoughts and behaviors as a married woman would. Govern your walk, talk and interactions as though you’re a wife already. This applies to spiritual matters (praying for your husband) and practical matters (physical preparation). Remember Esther prepared herself as queen long before the crown was placed on her head.
- Guard your heart, but learn how to let the guards down when it’s time
I was taught how to guard my heart but was never instructed on how to let my guards down appropriately when the time had come.
While I believe we should not let our guard down entirely until we are married, I do believe there is a healthy way to let someone in at the right time. You just have to wait for the person you deem worthy of the risk.
Suggestion of someone worthy to see and know your heart: 1 Corinthians 13. If you meet a man who lives this chapter, you’re in good company for someone who truly understands what love is.
- Maximize Your Single Season
If you’re not yet in a relationship, be intentional with your time and maximize the season you’ve been given. It often frustrates me when people say, “single people have so much time.” That is not the case. We are all given the same amount of time, 24 hours per day. However, our time is more flexible. With that in mind, create a bucket list of what you’d like to achieve while you have more flexibility with your time and finances.
I have a dear friend who once told me that, “waiting is not wasting time when you’re waiting on God!” Ladies, continue to trust God and know that He is faithful and He longs to satisfy the desires of your heart. Let your waiting season be one of the most exciting times of your life as you see God unfold His plan for your life and give you the love worth waiting for!
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