Love, Lust & Desire by Kenika

????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????The culture of today’s world is one that perpetuates lust. Women are getting breast and butt enhancements and any other type of alteration you can think of in an attempt to entice the opposite sex. The saddest part of all, is once they have the biggest, “baddest” whatever, they are oftentimes left scratching their heads wondering why the guy still won’t stick around. You did everything he wanted you to do, how he wanted you to do it, but it doesn’t seem like it was ever enough for him. Newsflash, he won’t ever be satisfied, because it was lust that drew him to you, not desire, and certainly not love.

As I occasionally scroll through Instagram and other social media outlets, my heart breaks for millions of young ladies who suck in their stomachs, hoist up their breasts, and stick our their butts in order to appear sexy and get lots of attention. I wish I could say it doesn’t work, but it definitely does. They have thousands upon thousands of “followers” which usually consists of people with the worst of intentions. The danger with all this is that we are promoting the idea that what counts most is what’s on the outside. Who can be the cutest, flirtiest, sexiest, sometimes the most racy, with lips that pout out the best? It’s a sad day when we as women, daughters of the King, have limited ourselves to only what we look like and present on the outside. Please know we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), so I’m not saying we need to walk around in sack cloths, but it’s just as important to be confident in the beauty you possess on the inside, that will ultimately project on the outside.

Ladies have you ever had a man look at you, kiss you, or touch you with love? You walk away feeling cherished and valued. On the contrary, if you’ve ever had a man do those same things with lust, you are left feeling dirty, insignificant, and far from special. A desire can be fulfilled, love has to be demonstrated, and lust is never satisfied. I can prove it.


One of the most popular verses on desire is found in Psalm 37:4, “Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.” If you delight yourself in our Father, and you have desires that do not contradict His will or His word, you can have it. Psalm 145:16 “Thou openest thine hand, and satisfiest the desire of every living thing.” There are many other verses, but the main idea is that, if you have a desire, it can be fulfilled. If someone desires you in this way, they will do what they can to show you.


“Love is an action word”, therefore if someone says they love you then they have to show it. They don’t demonstrate this by using you, objectifying you, disrespecting you, or putting you in situations where you have to wonder if you’re the only one. True love is unselfish and sacrificial. I often say if he won’t give up his figurative life for you (changing his single status), he definitely wouldn’t give up his literal life for you as God commanded husbands to do. (Ephesians 5:25) If you need a refresh on all the things that validate if a man really loves you, read 1 Corinthians 13 (NIV).


James 4:2 “Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.” Proverbs 27:20 “Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied.” Essentially what both verses are implying is that when what someone wants is fueled by lust, they won’t ever stop, and they won’t ever be satisfied, nothing or no one will ever be enough. The Amplified version of Proverbs 27:20 says, “Sheol (the place of the dead) and Abaddon (the place of destruction) are never satisfied; so [the lust of] the eyes of man is never satisfied.”

I know this was heavy but it is my hope that women everywhere will be encouraged to know that #1 True beauty is something that starts on the inside, the core of who you really are. #2 God loves you, has set His desire and affection towards you, and has demonstrated it. You should require the same from a potential mate. #3 Understand that you are far too valuable to let anyone approach you from a place of lust. Set a new standard for yourself and require that their desire and love for you be shown in the purest of forms. You are worth that and more!


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