Making Real Connections by Bombi

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Lately I’ve given tons of thought on human connection and how real connection has become more and more difficult. Ironically, social media gives convenient opportunity to share our every thought with our world and virtually connect 24/7. So how is it possible to lose connection when we’ve never been more technologically connected before?

Think about it, when is the last time you had coffee with your friend? When is the last time you went to lunch with your mom, or brother? When is the last time you sat next to another human being and actually talked to them instead of sitting while texting in silence?  Yes life has gotten a bit busy, but isn’t  it always? There is always something, a new job, a new class, a new baby, a death in the family, a wedding to plan, a trip to go on, a family member is sick.  As sure as a busy life is, so is the fact that there is no real substitute for face-to-face human connection and interaction. So here’s a question, would you rather chat an “XO” to your spouse, or give them an actual hug and kiss?

Here I am asking you to take a moment to search your heart and take a human-connection inventory. I’m talking to the tech savvy person who texts their pals all day long and I’m talking to the tech hater who gave up calling people because you know how much they would rather get a text. I’m talking to the extroverts, the introverts, and every “vert” out there. I’m talking to me.

I believe that we’re on this earth with actual vs. virtual people for a reason.  I can’t help but think about Jesus and his choice of close connection with people.  Jesus could have perfectly executed his amazing 3 years of ministry completely solo. He didn’t need anyone holding his hand or coming along for the ride. He could have done it all on his own, but instead showed us an example of the importance of connection by his relationship with the disciples and with the Father. There is much to be said about Jesus’ ministry and victory at the cross, but what I can’t forget is the fact that Jesus chose to do it with actual people around.  If connecting with people and pals was important to Jesus, then it’s important to me.

So here’s one last sobering question for the day, but one worth asking, have you given up on real connection with people?

As you ponder the question I’ll leave you with this scripture, popular for its affiliation with church attendance, but also a good reminder in general, of keeping real human connection with our fellow brothers and sisters and family of the faith.

24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

Hebrews 10:24-25 (NIV)

Why don’t you make that coffee date with your pal today? I bet it’ll encourage you.