How Children Shape Us by Sonya

God has been teaching me a lot about myself through parenting. I really thought that my
main focus in parenting was that God was going to use me to shape and mold my kids
and I was going to teach them everything about God.  Boy was I wrong because when I
started parenting I realized they were actually teaching me things about myself. Don’t get
me wrong, yes we want to raise our children to know the Lord and shape their character,
but there is much more to it.
My four children have taught me to be selfless, patient, wise, loving, kind and respectful
and the list goes on. They have shown my weaknesses on a daily basis and how I fail
every day in parenting. God’s grace and love gets me through each day. He strengthens
my character and shapes my soul on a daily basis.  He shapes my soul into being a
woman of God that is devoted to prayer and in His word. I could not parent if I was not in
the word and praying. Each day God has to be at the center and putting Him first allows
my day to go so much smoother.
I am a more mature Christian by being a parent because I realize the act of parenting is
sacrificial and it allows me to see a glimpse of God’s wonderful sacrifice for us all. The
parental sacrifice that Paul speaks of: “Children should not have to save up for their
parents, but parents for their children. So I will very gladly spend for you everything I
have and expend myself as well.” (2 Corinthians 12:14-15)  This is Christ’s sacrifice Paul
is amazed by: “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in
me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave
himself for me.” (Galatians 2:20) These verses allow me to reshape my thinking about
parenting and how sacrificing our time and energy into our children truly shapes our
character in becoming more Christ like. It tunes us into God’s sacrifice and how He lives
in us through our parenting and as we draw closer to HIM, our children will see His face
in us. This understanding shapes our souls and allows our children to mold us by the
everyday tasks of parenting.
At the end of the day, I want to hear “Well done good and faithful servant” from God.
My youngest daughter says to me almost every day, “Mommy, you are the best parent,”
and I feel God smiles down at me at that moment letting me know that no matter the
mistakes I made that day I am deeply loved by the God of the universe and this 4 year old
girl. It melts my heart and opens my eyes to the spiritual formation that God is using
parenting to make me more holy and shape my soul.


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