Matthew 7:12 “Do for others what you would like them to do for you,” is a scripture I quote to my kids often. This is the golden rule and a great scripture to live by and to teach your children. Respecting others is a trait that you have to teach your children in order for them to be successful. They have to understand it is not all about them. To serve, honor, love and respect others requires humility on our part and having your children learn that is a great blessing.
To demonstrate respect I believe your marriage is key and what your kids look to for what defines respect. If we as spouses are not respecting our mates in front of our kids then that is a problem and I am speaking to myself on this as well. I have to make a conscious effort to put myself aside and my own desires to win an argument or sometimes second-guess my husband. That is just wrong and to teach my children to respect their daddy is one of the biggest gifts I can give my kids especially in front of them. For instance, if daddy has the final say on something as a wife I need to support him and be on the same page. Supporting my husband’s decision on something in front of our kids speaks volumes especially on discipline. If my husband gives a harsher discipline then maybe I would give than I still have to support that even if I don’t agree with it. By showing that I side with daddy shows respect to not only my kids but my husband too. This doesn’t mean my husband and I don’t go back and discuss that discipline and maybe come up with an agreement for next time to discipline. By valuing my husband higher shows my children respect.
Another way to show your children to respect their parents is to teach your children about first time obedience. Having them understand that listening to you on the first time shows respect. I know I started out giving my kids 1,2,3 counts but realizing they kept disobeying because they got so many chances and the respect was lost. Therefore, I had to reevaluate my parenting and realize if they can listen to me on three than they can listen on the count of one. Teaching them to listen and respect me on the first time shows your children respect. This also carries over to other adults that have authority over them and they will listen and obey others the first time. Leviticus states it clearly, “Show your fear of God by standing up in the presence of elderly people and showing respect for the aged,” Leviticus 19:32. Respect is a great character trait and building our lives on God’s word shows our reverence for God. I encourage you to not compromise your character and stand up for the truth by treating others the way you would like to be treated. Showing and teaching your children respect will be the best gift you can give them.